We feast and I'm happy with the desserts! :)
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We are one month old! 
Brad Pitt- Love
Sunday, July 21, 2013
Brad Pitt About His Wife :
"My wife got sick. She was constantly nervous because of problems at work, personal life, her failures and problems with children.
She has lost 30 pounds and weighted about 90 pounds in her 35 years. She got very skinny, and was constantly crying. She was not a happy woman.
She had suffered from continuing headaches, heart pain and jammed nerves in her back and ribs. She did not sleep well, falling asleep only in the morning and got tired very quickly during the day.
Our relationship was on the verge of break up. Her beauty was leaving her somewhere, she had bags under her eyes, she was poking her head, and stopped taking care of herself.
She refused to shoot the films and rejected any role. I lost hope and thought that we’ll get divorced soon…
But then I decided to act on it. After all I've got the most beautiful woman on the earth. She is the idol of more than half of men and women on earth, and I was the one allowed to fall asleep next to her and to hug her shoulders.
I began to pamper her with flowers, kisses and compliments. I surprised her and pleased her every minute. I gave her lots of gifts and lived just for her. I spoke in public only about her. I incorporated all themes in her direction. I praised her in front of her own and our mutual friends.
You won’t believe it, but she blossomed. She became even better than before. She gained weight, was no longer nervous and she loved me even more than ever. I had no clue that she CAN love that much.
And then I realized one thing: The woman is the reflection of her man.
If you love her to the point of madness, she will become it. " - Brad Pitt, A Secret of Love
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"My wife got sick. She was constantly nervous because of problems at work, personal life, her failures and problems with children.
She has lost 30 pounds and weighted about 90 pounds in her 35 years. She got very skinny, and was constantly crying. She was not a happy woman.
She had suffered from continuing headaches, heart pain and jammed nerves in her back and ribs. She did not sleep well, falling asleep only in the morning and got tired very quickly during the day.
Our relationship was on the verge of break up. Her beauty was leaving her somewhere, she had bags under her eyes, she was poking her head, and stopped taking care of herself.
She refused to shoot the films and rejected any role. I lost hope and thought that we’ll get divorced soon…
But then I decided to act on it. After all I've got the most beautiful woman on the earth. She is the idol of more than half of men and women on earth, and I was the one allowed to fall asleep next to her and to hug her shoulders.
I began to pamper her with flowers, kisses and compliments. I surprised her and pleased her every minute. I gave her lots of gifts and lived just for her. I spoke in public only about her. I incorporated all themes in her direction. I praised her in front of her own and our mutual friends.
You won’t believe it, but she blossomed. She became even better than before. She gained weight, was no longer nervous and she loved me even more than ever. I had no clue that she CAN love that much.
And then I realized one thing: The woman is the reflection of her man.
If you love her to the point of madness, she will become it. " - Brad Pitt, A Secret of Love
Weekend is here
Saturday, July 20, 2013
Messed up event in the morning... Followed by a good walk at the public garden.. SingPore got many hidden talents!! 
Vivian Lai spotted.
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Earl grey cup cake which was really sweet.
Ready to fly!! But where?!!
Marriage
Friday, July 19, 2013
This is the second time I saw this.
I used to think I had my stuff together. Then I got married.
Marriage is great—but it rocked everything I knew. I quickly realized my basic goal in life, prior to getting married, was to simply remain undisturbed.
This “disruption” came suddenly and was disguised as a 5-foot-nothing Swedish-Filipino woman. When I decided I’d rather not live without her, I proceeded to ask her to marry me—that is, to officially invite someone who wasn’t me to be in my personal space for the rest of my life.
This decision introduced my most significant experiences and most challenging experiences—none of which I would trade for the world.
However, I wish I’d had a bit more insight on the front end of our marriage to help me navigate it all.
According to most research, more than 50 percent of people who say “I do” will not be sleeping in the same bed eight years from now. And though Scripture alludes to the fact that adultery and abuse may be reasons individuals might end a marriage, I’d be willing to bet that most challenges experienced in marriage are the result of unawareness. Most people—myself included—jump into marriage with suitcases full of misconceptions and bad theology, entirely unaware of the unique beauty and paradoxical intentions of marriage.
Although happiness is often a very real byproduct of a healthy relationship, marriage has a far more significant purpose in sight.
The following are three thoughts on marriage that friends and mentors have shared with me. I remind myself of them often in hopes of keeping this anomaly called marriage both enjoyable and healthy.
1. Marriage is not about living happily ever after.
Here’s the truth: I get annoyed at my wife. But this is more a reflection of me than her.
I’m intensely certain that nothing in life has ever made me more angry, frustrated or annoyed than my wife. Inevitably, just when I think I’ve given all I can possibly give, she somehow finds a way to ask for more.
The worst part of it all is that her demands aren’t unreasonable. One day she expects me to stay emotionally engaged. The next, she's looking for me to validate the way that she feels. The list goes on—but never ventures far from things she perfectly well deserves as a wife.
Unfortunately for her, deserving or not, her needs often compete with my self-focus. I know it shouldn’t be this way, but I am selfish and stubborn and, overall, human.
I once read a book that alluded to the idea that marriage is the fire of life—that somehow it’s designed to refine all our dysfunction and spur us into progressive wholeness. In this light, contrary to popular opinion, the goal of marriage is not happiness. And although happiness is often a very real byproduct of a healthy relationship, marriage has a far more significant purpose in sight. It is designed to pull dysfunction to the surface of our lives, set it on fire and help us grow.
When we’re willing to see it this way, then the points of friction in our marriages quickly become gifts that consistently invite us into a more whole and fulfilling experience of life.
2. The more you give to marriage, the more it gives back.
Over the past year, a few friends and I have had an open conversation about the highs and lows of marriage—specifically how to make the most of the high times and avoid the low ones. Along the way, we happened upon a derailing hypothesis that goes something like this: If one makes their husband or wife priority number one, all other areas of life benefit.
When we return marriage to its rightful place in our priorities, it can quickly turn into the greatest asset to every other layer of our lives.
It’s a disorienting claim. Disorienting, because it protests my deeper persuasion that success as an entrepreneur, or any professional, requires that career takes the throne of my priorities and remain there for, at the very least, a couple of years.
However, seeing that my recent pattern of caring about work over marriage had produced little more than paying bills and a miserable wife, I figured giving the philosophy a test drive couldn’t hurt.
For 31 days, I intentionally put my wife first over everything else, and then I tracked how it worked. I created a metric for these purposes, to mark our relationship as priority, and then my effectiveness in all other areas of my life on the same scale, including career productivity and general quality of life.
To my surprise, a month later, I had a chart of data and a handful of ironic experiences to prove that the more you give to marriage, the more it gives back.
Notably, on the days my wife genuinely felt valued, I observed her advocating for me to invest deeply in to my work. She no longer saw our relationship and my career pursuits as competitors for my attention, and as she partnered with me in my career, I have experienced the benefits of having the closest person in my life champion me.
Of course, marriage requires sacrifice. And sometimes it will feel as if it takes and takes. However, when we return marriage to its rightful place in our priorities, it can quickly turn from something we have to maintain and sacrifice for into the greatest asset to every other layer of our lives.
3. Marriage can change the world.
John Medina, the author of Brain Rules and a Christian biologist, is often approached by men looking for the silver bullet of fathering. In one way or another, they all come around to asking, “What’s the most important thing I can do as a father?”
Medina's answer alludes to a surprising truth.
In my previously mentioned experiment, I measured the effect that making my marriage priority number one had on different areas of my life. One of those areas was my 16-month-old son’s behavior.
What I found in simply charting my observations was that the majority of the time, my child’s behavior was directly affected by the level of intention I invested in my marriage.
Re-enter John Medina, the Christian biologist. After years of biological research and several books on parenting conclusions, what is his answer to the question, “What’s the most important thing I can do as a father”?
“Go home and love your wife.”
Gary Ezzo and Robert Bucknam, the authors of Babywise, say it this way: “A healthy marriage creates an infused stability within the family and a haven of security for a child in their development process.” They go on to sum up their years of research by saying, “In the end, great marriages produce great parents.”
The point is that marriage has a higher goal than to make two people happy or even whole. Yes, the investment we make into our marriage pays dividends for us. But, concluded by Medina and his colleagues, the same investment also has significant implications for our family, our community and eventually our culture.
So men, women, the next time you find yourself dreaming about living significantly or succeeding in your career or being a better parent than yours were to you, do the world a favor: Go home and love your wife. Go home and and love your husband.
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I used to think I had my stuff together. Then I got married.
Marriage is great—but it rocked everything I knew. I quickly realized my basic goal in life, prior to getting married, was to simply remain undisturbed.
This “disruption” came suddenly and was disguised as a 5-foot-nothing Swedish-Filipino woman. When I decided I’d rather not live without her, I proceeded to ask her to marry me—that is, to officially invite someone who wasn’t me to be in my personal space for the rest of my life.
This decision introduced my most significant experiences and most challenging experiences—none of which I would trade for the world.
However, I wish I’d had a bit more insight on the front end of our marriage to help me navigate it all.
According to most research, more than 50 percent of people who say “I do” will not be sleeping in the same bed eight years from now. And though Scripture alludes to the fact that adultery and abuse may be reasons individuals might end a marriage, I’d be willing to bet that most challenges experienced in marriage are the result of unawareness. Most people—myself included—jump into marriage with suitcases full of misconceptions and bad theology, entirely unaware of the unique beauty and paradoxical intentions of marriage.
Although happiness is often a very real byproduct of a healthy relationship, marriage has a far more significant purpose in sight.
The following are three thoughts on marriage that friends and mentors have shared with me. I remind myself of them often in hopes of keeping this anomaly called marriage both enjoyable and healthy.
1. Marriage is not about living happily ever after.
Here’s the truth: I get annoyed at my wife. But this is more a reflection of me than her.
I’m intensely certain that nothing in life has ever made me more angry, frustrated or annoyed than my wife. Inevitably, just when I think I’ve given all I can possibly give, she somehow finds a way to ask for more.
The worst part of it all is that her demands aren’t unreasonable. One day she expects me to stay emotionally engaged. The next, she's looking for me to validate the way that she feels. The list goes on—but never ventures far from things she perfectly well deserves as a wife.
Unfortunately for her, deserving or not, her needs often compete with my self-focus. I know it shouldn’t be this way, but I am selfish and stubborn and, overall, human.
I once read a book that alluded to the idea that marriage is the fire of life—that somehow it’s designed to refine all our dysfunction and spur us into progressive wholeness. In this light, contrary to popular opinion, the goal of marriage is not happiness. And although happiness is often a very real byproduct of a healthy relationship, marriage has a far more significant purpose in sight. It is designed to pull dysfunction to the surface of our lives, set it on fire and help us grow.
When we’re willing to see it this way, then the points of friction in our marriages quickly become gifts that consistently invite us into a more whole and fulfilling experience of life.
2. The more you give to marriage, the more it gives back.
Over the past year, a few friends and I have had an open conversation about the highs and lows of marriage—specifically how to make the most of the high times and avoid the low ones. Along the way, we happened upon a derailing hypothesis that goes something like this: If one makes their husband or wife priority number one, all other areas of life benefit.
When we return marriage to its rightful place in our priorities, it can quickly turn into the greatest asset to every other layer of our lives.
It’s a disorienting claim. Disorienting, because it protests my deeper persuasion that success as an entrepreneur, or any professional, requires that career takes the throne of my priorities and remain there for, at the very least, a couple of years.
However, seeing that my recent pattern of caring about work over marriage had produced little more than paying bills and a miserable wife, I figured giving the philosophy a test drive couldn’t hurt.
For 31 days, I intentionally put my wife first over everything else, and then I tracked how it worked. I created a metric for these purposes, to mark our relationship as priority, and then my effectiveness in all other areas of my life on the same scale, including career productivity and general quality of life.
To my surprise, a month later, I had a chart of data and a handful of ironic experiences to prove that the more you give to marriage, the more it gives back.
Notably, on the days my wife genuinely felt valued, I observed her advocating for me to invest deeply in to my work. She no longer saw our relationship and my career pursuits as competitors for my attention, and as she partnered with me in my career, I have experienced the benefits of having the closest person in my life champion me.
Of course, marriage requires sacrifice. And sometimes it will feel as if it takes and takes. However, when we return marriage to its rightful place in our priorities, it can quickly turn from something we have to maintain and sacrifice for into the greatest asset to every other layer of our lives.
3. Marriage can change the world.
John Medina, the author of Brain Rules and a Christian biologist, is often approached by men looking for the silver bullet of fathering. In one way or another, they all come around to asking, “What’s the most important thing I can do as a father?”
Medina's answer alludes to a surprising truth.
In my previously mentioned experiment, I measured the effect that making my marriage priority number one had on different areas of my life. One of those areas was my 16-month-old son’s behavior.
What I found in simply charting my observations was that the majority of the time, my child’s behavior was directly affected by the level of intention I invested in my marriage.
Re-enter John Medina, the Christian biologist. After years of biological research and several books on parenting conclusions, what is his answer to the question, “What’s the most important thing I can do as a father”?
“Go home and love your wife.”
Gary Ezzo and Robert Bucknam, the authors of Babywise, say it this way: “A healthy marriage creates an infused stability within the family and a haven of security for a child in their development process.” They go on to sum up their years of research by saying, “In the end, great marriages produce great parents.”
The point is that marriage has a higher goal than to make two people happy or even whole. Yes, the investment we make into our marriage pays dividends for us. But, concluded by Medina and his colleagues, the same investment also has significant implications for our family, our community and eventually our culture.
So men, women, the next time you find yourself dreaming about living significantly or succeeding in your career or being a better parent than yours were to you, do the world a favor: Go home and love your wife. Go home and and love your husband.
Woman
Saturday, July 13, 2013
It's scary how one EXTREMELY ANGRY WOMAN can do. :x
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Bad bad, not ethical.
O M G
Still badly traumatized by the scene I saw along ecp. It could have been us. Praying hard for the ppl. :(
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What if...?
Friday, July 12, 2013
As I was sitting at the hotel waiting for the hungry hubby to end work, I saw many well dressed guests walking out of the ballroom. Makes me wonder how will it be like if we had hold the wedding at a hotel instead...
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NTU gang meet up
We arranged to go for the yummy clay pot chicken rice at commonwealth. So disappointing!!! They close for 2 months since last week! Sob.
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Get together was great!
Chicken wing rox!
First date
Tuesday, July 09, 2013
It's our first date since married.
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Knowing happy hub is very interested to go meet the fellow pgs so happy wife go shopping alone. I miss bkk shopping now! >.<
My wedding dairy
Tuesday, July 02, 2013
Planning a wedding involves many many people. As much as I want to make if simple, the wedding we wanted is not so simple. :/ We scout for many places, went down Burkill hall 3x before we confirm the place. It was a difficult decision since parking seems inconvenience, hot weather and the no. Of pax we have. But we really like the place so we whack!
Short listing the bridal shop is also another big consideration.. We were considering to take our own prewed or just take a normal package like most people. Taking our own pre wed will have lotsa limitation but the process is gonna be memorable, something which we can look back and miss when we are, wiser.
From Le grand, z wedding, EBC, to Sophia, destino and etc, it's so hard to make a choice!!! I like Le grand n ebc 's gown but I Donno if its worth it to spend a few grand on them.. It's always the 'once in a life time' popping ard us. We chose EBC, and Im pretty sure i have no regrets.
Venue and bridal are the major items to confirm, besides the wedding date. We started looking out for pretty deco ideas. It's really hard to decide cos everything we saw are pretty, n which come with high cost.
Having selected a bridal boutique with no photo included, we have to plan for prewedding shoot as well. Oversea or local? We were toying with the idea of going to Japan or ausie for our DIY shoot. Japan since HL is gg there to shoot, so y not! But the radiation problem is really stopping me to say 'ok'. Probably it's only me that feels this way...
Then alv n yl suggested a prewedding tho lossy trip which was a good idea!! I love campervan trips. So we had our first pre wedding shoot in Vic. HL had his mountain shoot and I have my hay shoot. :)) missing the trip v much :(
We had a second shoot when HL's Bali fren came to sg and asked HL if he is keen for a shoot. So we decided to have the shoot in gown again! The photo turn out really nice and its really diff from self portrait. Haha... I love self shoot still!!!
Then we had another shoot in Kyoto. The dress that my mum made. That was my fav dress cos its exactly what I wanted. :))) we had many Rds of alteration and I insist in this design. Glad that if turn out so well :)
26 days countdown
After many tries to print this, finally it's ready. Add the twine and it will be ready to tie!
25 days countdown
Met up with Ryan at IcS to finally the set up and planning for D day. There's AV that we need to settle, live band, and most importantly the AD plan. Cutlery setting confirmed, no. Of pax still increasing.. >.<, I can't decide on my ice cream or cup cake station.
Meet up with Fi to confirm the flowers needed for the centre pieces, recept table, album table, ROM table, my pinwheel aisle, buffet line, my bouquet and march in bouquet for my ladies. Yellow n cream are the main color since I doubt there's any Tiffany blue flowers.
24days countdown
Sniff sob... Hardworking goes down the drain after cutting, ironing and painting!!!
Making a little banner for the little girl/boy to hold during the march in. Was so tempted to just use it since ppl will probably think its on purpose. But I decided to do another one!!!!
:)) it's a success!!!
Doing this was much more tedious than the MR/MRS printout. For the banner I gotta print the wordings on the freezer paper, cut out the letters to make a stencil, stick the paper and burlap together by ironing and finally paint the burlap.
DIY is fun.
23days countdown
Finally completed the Ang bao box! I wonder which column will have the most! =D
20 days countdown
Met up with Fiona n Xn at Burkill hall to check out and confirm on the deco. There was a wedding there as well. Looking forward!!
After that was xiaochong n clarice wedding. Their Italy wedding was one of the best wedding I attended so far.. So much love.
19days countdown
And the htb's boutonnière is ready!
18 days countdown
Napkin folding is simple so Ryan suggest we can add a placemat. Edited the design from the save the date. Simple things can be pretty too!
16 days countdown
14 days countdown
A hens trip with the girls to Bangkok. If not for me this will be a surprise! =D
And my photobooks are here!! Can't decide which is my fav album.
Successfully transform my green lantern to a lighter blue!! Now I'm left with my direction stand and brother corsages! Yes!!
Finally the signage is completed !! Went to HL's fav fish stall for fish soup.
My pretty nails done. For once its pretty. Haha
6 out of 19 major tasks completed. Many minor tasks pending.. Can't wait for the stuffs to arrive and finish n can relax!!! But luckily not a bridezilla yet! XD
14 days countdown
A hens trip with the girls to Bangkok. If not for me this will be a surprise! =D
Bought some accessories and hope they will go well with the gowns!!!
11 days countdown
Finishing my place mat printing. Items from taobao finally arrive. Happy with the flower poms but not so happy with the lanterns!!! Y green color :x
Led tea Lights are here too! :)
My flats are ready too!! Yay!!!
Wedding favors arrive! Like it!!!
12 days countdown
Call me Ms leong for the next few days pls!!! Gg for my evening fitting later. Pretty excited with the red, nv ever had a red dress before and now I'm wearing for my evening gowns.
Call me Ms leong for the next few days pls!!! Gg for my evening fitting later. Pretty excited with the red, nv ever had a red dress before and now I'm wearing for my evening gowns.
11 days countdown
Finally it's completed. :)
And my photobooks are here!! Can't decide which is my fav album.
Guest lists mostly settled. The schedule for AD also most or less. we are going to Fiona house to do up the bottles, hopefully everything will be done soon!
8 days countdown
Went daiso to buy the pots for the Q cards and more deco stuffs. The haze is making me very panick.
7 days countdown
Meet the girls at fi house for bottle deco. We started the day slow, with us eating breakfast n chatting away.
I manage to drag 4 big bAgs of bottles to Fiona house. All sort of shapes n sizes.
We arrange and cat the bottles in their size and started deco with twine, burlap, papers. Many ideas to fit into the Tiffany blue / yellow theme. Especially like the pinwheels n fan wheels. Makes the bottle so beautiful :D
100 bottles and we completed in 5 hrs!! Every bottle so unique so into the theme! I'm so gonna bring them home :)))
6 days countdown
Finally packed most of the items into the respect bags to bring down on the AD. Still left with brother and sisters corsages not completed. And my direction signature which is still untouch! Brought my first batch of clothes over. I don feel nervous or sad that I'm moving over ( very temporary). I know I'm gonna be at my home for most of the time. Hor HL ? ;p
Today is also Alv n Lin's big day:))) it's always nice to attend close frens wedding. Two more weddings coming up!
5 days countdown
I'm left with brother night corsages and the pinwheels to make. I hope I can start and finish most of the items by wed!!!
Program cards need to be paste as well. Went daiso and found another tray for the cards. Most of the items to get is now completed!!! Yay!!
Schedule and seating plan completed.
I think the people ard me r more excited than I am! Can't imagine how loss I might feel after the wedding.
4 days countdown
Zhi Hao came back from Perth to attend the wedding, so we met up for a Teh session with jq n jing. Time well spent to forget abt all others distracting stuffs.
Tried my new idea - pinwheel light. It works somehow!! Quite happy with how it turns out. My dream light is gonna cost is a bomb, so we are looking for alternative- candles!
Hope they will brighten up the place!!!
Program cards are ready!! Please have a fine weather and my guests won't need this!!
Successfully transform my green lantern to a lighter blue!! Now I'm left with my direction stand and brother corsages! Yes!!
We prepared a questionnaire cards for the guests to full up... Fiona has help me to set up and I'm loving this!
3 days countdown
Halfway done with the bro's boutonnière and the outline of the direction signage is out! Ice cream for sat is ready too!
2 days countdown
Officially on leave today n tml. Now I'm on the way down to collect the ROM cert, then to collect the gown.
Still like this red gown very much. A bold color that I nv try before.
We had our last date as ms Leong. Mrs Li is ok, mdm Leong is no no. :s
Finally the signage is completed !! Went to HL's fav fish stall for fish soup.
Went to pick up easel at Lin's new place!
1 day count down
Many people ask me how many days of leave I taking. I was telling them I don need to take on fri but TODAY is the busiest day of preparation!
Morning went to do my nails.
Whole of afternoon was busy packing everything into their respective bags. Oops I have too many items. :/
My pretty nails done. For once its pretty. Haha
Many relatives arrive at night so we went for dinner. Wrote a vow but not sure if we are using it since HL got no time.
It's tml!!! Not sure what to expect but I hope it's great!
WE R READY!!!
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